Moments of Motherhood: Real men don’t (or shouldn’t) care

After taking a break from my Moments of Motherhood column to focus on my temporary job/parenting a toddler, I’ve decided to make a return. I may not write as frequently as I did before, but the open invitation to contribute as often as I like is wonderful. Thanks, Mel, for having me back!

In today’s column, I discuss how real men don’t care about what a woman’s body goes through during and after pregnancy — in a good way.

Here’s a snippet:

Every choice we make in life should be one that is made from a conscious decision. We choose career paths based on passion, not the paycheck it promises; we’re friends with those who make us smile and laugh, not because we’re desperate for attention; and we fall in love with the person who loves us for who we are on the inside, not for what we look like on the outside.

As cliché as the last point may be, it perhaps rings the truest, especially when all the major life events happen after you marry whoever that person is. The marriage vow of “for better or worse” is truly tested after we make the decision, whether conscious or not, to have children.

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What I’m Reading: American Sniper

From Goodreads.com:
From 1999 to 2009, U.S. Navy SEAL Chris Kyle recorded the most career sniper kills in United States military history. The Pentagon has officially confirmed more than 150 of Kyle’s kills (the previous American record was 109), but it has declined to verify the astonishing total number for this book. Iraqi insurgents feared Kyle so much they named him al-Shaitan (“the devil”) and placed a bounty on his head. Kyle earned legendary status among his fellow SEALs, Marines, and U.S. Army soldiers, whom he protected with deadly accuracy from rooftops and stealth positions. Gripping and unforgettable, Kyle’s masterful account of his extraordinary battlefield experiences ranks as one of the great war memoirs of all time.

A native Texan who learned to shoot on childhood hunting trips with his father, Kyle was a champion saddle-bronc rider prior to joining the Navy. After 9/11, he was thrust onto the front lines of the War on Terror, and soon found his calling as a world-class sniper who performed best under fire. He recorded a personal-record 2,100-yard kill shot outside Baghdad; in Fallujah, Kyle braved heavy fire to rescue a group of Marines trapped on a street; in Ramadi, he stared down insurgents with his pistol in close combat. Kyle talks honestly about the pain of war—of twice being shot and experiencing the tragic deaths of two close friends.

American Sniper also honors Kyle’s fellow warriors, who raised hell on and off the battlefield. And in moving first-person accounts throughout, Kyle’s wife, Taya, speaks openly about the strains of war on their marriage and children, as well as on Chris.

Adrenaline-charged and deeply personal, American Sniper is a thrilling eyewitness account of war that only one man could tell.

My review:
I’ll say right off the bat that I watched the movie before I read the book. I bought the book for Kyle (my husband, not the author, obviously) for his birthday after we watched the movie in theatre and he said that while he enjoyed the movie, he didn’t LOVE it because of everything he had heard/read about Chris Kyle and the controversy behind, well, everything. I’m not going to delve into the politics behind Kyle’s (the author, not my husband, lol) experiences or the war overseas in general because to be 100% honest, I haven’t paid too much attention to it all. This is just a review of the book. I digress … 

(And for the record, when I mention Kyle from here on out, I’m referring to the author, not my husband …)

Diving into the book, I found it to be a really interesting read, especially since reading it helped explain some of the events that occurred in the movie. The movie reflected the book almost perfectly, with the exception of a couple of events that were changed to make the movie more “Hollywood” I guess. (I won’t give anything away for those who haven’t read the book or watched the movie.)

It’s hard to really be critical about an autobiography, though, and this is only the 4th one I’ve ever read. I know a lot of skeptics have criticized Kyle for writing this book, but I think it’s a bold thing to do for someone who had so much first-hand, up-close-and-personal experiences with the war. You put a lot on the line when you lay out your life story like the way Kyle does.

He is also a relatable person, when you take away the war and the preconceived notions that he’s a “killer.” In the end, all he wanted to do was his job, and is that not what most of us want to do? Whether you live to sell stocks, bag groceries, or be overseas fighting for your country, it doesn’t matter; Kyle just wanted to serve his country and made that very clear.

I know everyone has their own opinion on the war, so before I start making things too political after I said I would refrain, I’ll nip this review in the bud. Overall, I still give American Soldier 4 stars out of 5. It was an extremely interesting and eye-opening read, and I definitely recommend those who are interested in the movie to read the autobiography instead.

Weekend Update

This weekend was brought to you by sunshine!

Friday
Kyle and I went and looked at a house Friday morning but walked away unsure about it. Actually – he liked it and I was unsure. The neighbourhood is exactly where we want to be, but the house itself needed a lot of adjustments/updates that weren’t really reflected in the asking price. I know – we kind of just bought the house we’re in now (November 2011), but we’re already running out of room and would like more space. This hunt won’t continue much longer since I’m only getting more pregnant and moving with a newborn would be zero fun, so we’re getting frustrated with the lack of options there are on the market right now.

Anyway, after that we picked up some food from the grocery store for lunch and spent the rest of the afternoon outside in the sunshine!

Saturday
Kyle worked an overtime shift so it was just Isla and I! We met a friend at the park just down the hill from our house where we played in the playground, had a little picnic lunch, and fed the ducks! The ducks/geese really appreciated Isla’s generous portion sizes too.

After the park we didn’t feel like heading home quiet yet, so we headed down to my mom’s for a visit! Isla had some more lunch (growth spurt maybe?) and we went outside to enjoy the sun some more! We were outside from about 11am to 3:30pm, and it showed once I put Isla to bed. Even though she napped on the way home from my mom’s, she still crashed hard at bedtime.

Oh, also, around 7pm Saturday, before Kyle got home from work, our landline starts ringing and when I answer it’s a lady asking if I own a pit bull. I say yes, completely forgetting that I had let Campbell outside. Well, apparently he had escaped and was hanging out on this lady’s patio in her back yard. Mother f-er! Luckily she was just down the street, so I packed Isla into the car, grabbed Cam’s leash and went to get him. They didn’t seem overly bothered by him (i.e., not intimidated by the fac that he’s a pit bull), and commented on how friendly he was. At least Campbell was winning that way, because he was in so much trouble!

Sunday
Kyle worked at fixing the spot in the fence where Campbell managed to escape. (To no avail, however. Cam escaped AGAIN last night during his pre-bedtime pee break, but I caught him in the act and he didn’t go far.)

We did our routine grocery shop for the week and after lunch we headed down to Kyle’s mom’s for a visit since his grandparents had just returned from their snowbirding trip to Arizona & Hawaii. I spent a little too much time sitting in the sun and got my first sunburn of the year. Oops.

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After dinner we came home and I got Isla bathed and into bed. Kyle and I watched the rest of the Vancouver vs. Calgary hockey game, and then went to bed ourselves!

Despite the sunburn, I’m so glad that the weather is nice! I live for this mid-20°C weather. When it creeps up towards 30°C I get a little cranky, but this weather (and this weekend) was perfection!

How was your weekend? Did you get sunburnt?