Moments of Motherhood: Lifestyle Adjustments

20150806_165736After yet another, semi-unintentional, hiatus, I’ve back again with my Moments of Motherhood column! This time, there’s a change to where the “Continue reading” link takes you. The Armchair Mayor News website has now merged with a new news website, NewsKamloops, and when Mel asked if I’d like to keep writing my column for the new space, I couldn’t say no.

In this column, I write about how having kids forces you to make adjustments to your life, and how those changes can sometimes be a little chaotic. Here’s a snippet:

As I sit here and write this I’m enjoying an uninterrupted bowl of cereal, a giant cup of coffee, and a wonderful silence throughout the house. The baby woke up at 6:30 to nurse and is back asleep in her crib, and my toddler is having a rare morning where she sleeps in.

These days, moments to myself like this are few and far between. Most mornings are chaotic from the minute my 3-year-old stumbles out of her room, which is usually before I even have a chance to wake up myself. And as Murphy’s Law will have it, not long after she’s awake, the baby is too and my attention is divided several different ways.

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Moments of Motherhood: Second pregnancies are no cakewalk

1VeaOrz7hXMMxkOmldDJs4MXSfgscPXP_lgI’m back again over at The Armchair Mayor News this week, this time discussing how second pregnancies have less “magic” and novelty than the first time around.

Here’s a snippet:

Not too long ago my husband very lovingly said to me, “Women really must have the worst memories ever.” Normally I’d argue with him and try and defend myself, but he’s kind of right.

Allow me to elaborate on why I so easily raised the white flag of defeat: Any day now, Baby Evans Numero Dos will be making her appearance and while I couldn’t be more excited to meet our new addition, I’m also finding that second pregnancies are overrated.

Now, before everyone starts slinging comments shouting, “Why have kids to begin with if you think that?” allow me to lower the flag a little and explain myself.

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Moments of Motherhood: Real men don’t (or shouldn’t) care

After taking a break from my Moments of Motherhood column to focus on my temporary job/parenting a toddler, I’ve decided to make a return. I may not write as frequently as I did before, but the open invitation to contribute as often as I like is wonderful. Thanks, Mel, for having me back!

In today’s column, I discuss how real men don’t care about what a woman’s body goes through during and after pregnancy — in a good way.

Here’s a snippet:

Every choice we make in life should be one that is made from a conscious decision. We choose career paths based on passion, not the paycheck it promises; we’re friends with those who make us smile and laugh, not because we’re desperate for attention; and we fall in love with the person who loves us for who we are on the inside, not for what we look like on the outside.

As cliché as the last point may be, it perhaps rings the truest, especially when all the major life events happen after you marry whoever that person is. The marriage vow of “for better or worse” is truly tested after we make the decision, whether conscious or not, to have children.

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