Hey guys! Today I have my final guest poster: Amber from A Little Pink in the Cornfields! I adore Amber’s blog and always get excited when she has a new post!
Tomorrow I’m getting MARRIED and I’ll probably take a small hiatus for a couple days after that. I’ll be sure to post some sneak-peak photos as soon as I have the chance. Thank to EVERYONE for their amazing support and love on my way to walking down the aisle!
Kara’s getting married in ONE DAY! <insert squeal here!>
Hi! My name is Amber and I blog over at A Little Pink in the Cornfields. When I was trying to figure out what to guest blog about here on Chatter, I knew I wanted it to be wedding related. But, I’m not married! What was I going to write about? I fretted about this for a few days…
Seeing as I have never planned my own wedding, I don’t really know what it takes. But, I have watched a lot of my friends plan their weddings, and I have attended several. That counts, right? (I’m aware it probably doesn’t!)
What I do have experience in, is being a bridesmaid. Albeit, I am nowhere near my 27 Dresses, I do feel like I have some experience standing up there in a frilly dress supporting the bride on her big day. So, for all you bridesmaids out there, I have some advice for you on how to do your duties right, but have fun at the same time.
- First of all, you’re special enough in the bride’s life to be asked to be a part of one of the biggest days of her life. That’s special! Congratulations! Keep reminding yourself that when you want to walk away from the bride when she’s having a near meltdown…
- Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
- Be available for the bride. After all, you are in a role of support for the her, so if she wants you to work on stuffing envelopes for the invitations or help make centerpieces, you should respect her wishes and do so (you’re also there to help settle any panic attacks the bride may have suddenly). Also, don’t forget that she will be there for you someday.
- Be honest with the bride about your budget. Be sure that you’ve made it clear how much money you can devote to the wedding, because it adds up QUICK!
- Start planning the shower and bachelorette party EARLY! Keep in touch with his and her family to find out if they want to combine efforts or do separate parties.
- Work with the other bridesmaids on cost and work out a budget right away. Gather everybody’s portion in cash and have someone in charge of expenses.
- Work with the other bridesmaids on your wedding gift. If you’re all close friends, a scrapbook or other homemade gift is very thoughtful, and meaningful for the bride. It’s also much easier on the pocketbook.
- Borrow accessories or props for the parties. In my group of friends we save everything and use things over and over again. Cough,cough-peniscakepan-cough, cough.
- If the festivities are in a destination, be sure to book travel and lodging as soon as possible to secure the best rate. Use sites like Priceline.com and share rooms with other bridesmaids.
- Be organized and PLAN! This is one of the biggest days of her life, so be sure you’re taking the time to plan and make everything special for the big day! I promise you, the bride WILL notice. And, if the bride doesn’t, her family will.
- Get there EARLY on the big day and be prepared for a crisis. There will probably be one. Have a bag ready full of bobby pins, safety pins, lint roller, sewing kit, straightener, hair spray, extra makeup, wet wipes, deodorant, Kleenex, small shot of tequila….
- That little light at the end of the tunnel is the … RECEPTION! It will be so much fun being a part of the wedding party at the reception. Trust me. It will be SO. MUCH. FUN. You will be thinking to yourself, “I love weddings! I’m so sad this all over!”
- One more thing… something very important. Don’t wing your speech. Plan what you’re going to say. Or, if you’re like me and don’t want to write out word for word what you’re going to say, at least have the basic gist of what you’re going to say to the bride and groom.
- And, the last piece of advice, which is probably the most important piece of advice of all. “Keep calm and carry on…”
Congratulations to Kara and her groom! She will make the most beautiful bride and I cannot wait to hear all about it when she gets back!
Thanks Amber! That is such great advise that I’ll even have to take note of for when I’m a bridesmaid in August!
One thought on “Guest Post: Bridesmaid Advice”
Yay! Great post! It is my #1/ultimate goal in life NOT to be a bridezilla. So far I’ve been super laidback/easygoing about things (I think) but there are still 13 months till my wedding so LOTS of time for some bridezilla moments to come out :P
I have only been a bridesmaid once, and I remember it being really stressful, BUT your right, the reception was SO FUN!