Confessions: Parenting Edition

I believe that there’s too much pressure on parents these days to be that “perfect” parent. You know, the parent who sews all her baby’s clothes by hand, feeds them all organic food, doesn’t let them watch TV, etc. But is any parent really, truly perfect? Probably not. I certainly am not a perfect parent, but I do my very best to give Isla the best chance to strive.

Nonetheless, here are some of my parenting confessions, because let’s get real, it’s hard to be perfect:

– I let Isla watch TV for a least an hour a day. It’s usually in the morning so I can eat my breakfast without her coming up to me and begging like a baby bird for a bite, or around dinner time when I’m trying to cook. It’s not like I let her watch garbage – it’s almost always Sesame Street, which I have several episodes of saved on our PVR. The house could be on fire and she’ll be happily glued to the TV.

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The baby bird in full begging-mode.

– Isla is a big fan of Kraft Dinner, so every now and then, I cook some up for both of us. I’ll add some fresh diced tomatoes into hers, and she devours it. I know it’s not healthy and who knows what’s in that orange powder, but there are days where you just don’t feel like making yet another ham & cheese sandwich. Ketchup is also her favourite condiment and if she’s not crazy about whatever protein we’re having for dinner, a squeeze of ketchup will usually solve the problem. Again, not healthy, but if it gets her to eat, I’m okay with it.

– I’m totally the bad cop in the household. I take things away, I do time-outs. I’m a total believer in tough love if it’s in the tough moment. I try not to coddle her either; I ‘m a big believer in letting her “cry it out” and some thing that I have a heart of stone for not allowing her screaming to get to me. (Which it does, but I have to practice will power.) If she trips and falls, I try to wait for her reaction before swooping in for to make sure she’s okay. I’m definitely “that” parent in the store who has a screaming toddler because I won’t let her have something. (Last week I was “that” mom at the park who had to carry a screaming toddler to the car because it was time to go home and someone wanted to keep playing.)

– I trust Campbell (a pit bull) with her 99% of the time. (The 1% is when he’s excited and comes barrelling through the house with no regard for anything, myself included.) I hate the stigma that pit bulls have, but Cam is a total sweetheart and loves his humans, and Isla loves her “Camel.” They really are the bestest of buds!

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– Isla has her own Starbucks cup for the cup holder attached to her carseat. I bought her the cheap $1, plastic disposable cup after she was constantly trying to drink my latte, so now she can pretend that she has a coffee too. I’m sure cars that pull up beside me in traffic wonder why the hell a baby has Starbucks, but I promise you, it’s empty.

Really, my points aren’t something that the Ministry of Children needs to be alerted over. Isla has clothes on her back, her own bed to sleep in, plenty of food in her belly, and parents who love her. What more could a kid need? I grow weary of the parenting games, and am OK with doing things that works best for us.

What are your confessions?

 

 

Project 365: April 6 – 12

April 6-12

April 6: Happy ham

April 7: Makin’ mad chedda at the bottle depot.

April 8: Matchy-matchy.

April 9: Park day!

April 10: Delicious home made pretzel from The Crazy & the German!

April 11: Stuffed pork chops, Mediterranean pasta salad, and asparagus. Yum!

April 12: Fresh hair!

Are we friends on Facebook? If so, you can view the full photos here.

Questions & Answers

I’m borrowing this fun little Q&A from Krysten today. Sometimes you just need a silly little Q&A post at the end of the week!

1. Why do you blog?
Mainly, because it’s easier for me to express my thoughts and feelings in writing than it is out loud. But, I also do it because I love coming across other bloggers who have the same thoughts and interests as me. I’d love to meet more of my favourite bloggers one of these days!

2. What’s your favourite pastime?
I really enjoy reading, when I have the time to do so. I could probably lounge around all day and read a book if I had the time!

3. Do you have any pets? If so, tell me about them!
I’m pretty sure anyone who follows my blog on a regular basis knows about Daphne & Campbell.

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Campbell is a loveable block-head pit bull that we adopted two years ago through a rescue group. He’s a sweetheart and loves all the people in his life, he just wants to love them with every ounce of his 85lb body all at once, and that’s where it gets interesting. Your best bet when meeting him? Ignore him completely. I really believe that he feeds off of other people’s energy. Cesar Milan could probably work wonders with him, I’m sure. He loves Isla and Isla loves him, happily getting him off his bed in the morning, yelling, “CAMEL!” (Isla-talk for “Campbell.”)

Daphne is our old, cranky Alaskan Malamute. She’ll be 10 in the fall and is definitely showing her age, but she occasionally has bursts of puppy-like playfulness. She’s much better around new people than Campbell and loves to just get her “face too close” to new friends. (Something everyone who’s met Daphne has experienced!) In the winter she loves to lay outside no matter how cold it gets.

While I love having two dogs, I think that when Daphne passes, we’ll stick to having one dog. We’re not “small dog” people and dog food costs a lot of money! (And two big dogs = twice as much big dog-sized poop to scoop. Yuck.)

4. If you had the option of going to the desert, ocean, or mountains, which would you choose hands down and what time of year?
That’s a tough one. I’d maybe go to the ocean during the winter to escape the cold. My second choice would be the mountains in the summer, as long as there was a lake there. I love lake life!

5. Is blogging your full time gig? If not, what is?
I wish I could blog and make money! My full time gig is being a mommy. 

6. Sweet or savoury?
I can’t choose just one. I have a major sweet tooth, but I love savoury meals too.

7. Where did you grow up?
I grew up in the little town of Ashcroft, BC, population: 1,200. There’s no stoplights, one gas station and not a Starbucks for miles. Back when I was a kid is was a great place to raise a family, but unfortunately, it’s starting to go downhill as the population grows older and the younger generation moves away. I still visit at least twice a year though.

8. What is or would be number one on your bucket list?
Travelling to Ireland and/or England, as well as China. I’d love to see the countries where Kyle’s family and my family originated. 

9. What kind of music do you normally listen to?
Usually Top 40, and almost always at least a month or so after they hit #1. What can I say, I’m behind on what those damn teenagers are listening to these days ;)

10. Bright colours or neutral tones?
Neutrals with pops of bright colours.

11. Tell us one thing about yourself your readers don’t already know.
Starting in about grade 4 and all the way throughout high school, I was an avid soccer player. I played every season in the recreational league and played on the girl’s soccer team in high school. I even coached a U7 team one year. In grade 12, I was the co-captain of the team. I really miss playing soccer and my cardio is DEFINITELY NOT where it once was, but one day I’d love to lace up the cleats and play again.

Now it’s your turn to answer the questions – or you can pick just one of the ones from above and answer in the comments!