What’s a wedding without guests, right? And if you don’t have guests, well, you may as well elope.
Figuring out our guest list had Kyle and I seriously consider eloping. It was a PAIN. Since we are absorbing the majority of the cost to have our wedding, keeping a tight grasp on the guest list was important, but at the same time, deciding who we wanted to come was a HUGE battle.
It was all a matter of where to draw the line. Stop after immediate family and their spouses? Invite cousins? What about distant relatives such as great aunts and uncles? The mailman? Okay, you get my point.
We really wanted to keep our guest list under 100 people and to do that we HAD to cut people out. Not everyone was so keen on the cuts we made, but it was all about cost, sadly.
The harding thing was going to be telling my family that they couldn’t bring their kids. I have a lot of younger cousins on my mom’s side of the family, and not all young kids are gung-ho when it comes to sitting through a wedding reception and behaving. Plus, I still have to pay the $20/head for their meals, and they would probably only eat 1/3 of what an adult would eat. Not so cool on my bank account. Our solution? Adult-only reception. Brilliant! One of my cousins is old enough to babysit, so after the ceremony my mom is turning her house into a child care center and all the kiddos will hang out there. Woo!
Another hard decision was inviting the “hard to deal with” relatives. There’s a lot of conflict between family members on either side of Kyle and I’s family, so deciding who to invite and who not to invite was again, hard. In the end, we decided to invite everyone who deserved an invitation. After all, it was OUR wedding, and if people can’t get along for one day then they don’t have to come. It should be interesting to see how this all plays out, but the “rules” have been made clear to all conflicting parties.
Figuring out who to invite was by far the most difficult part of the wedding planning process. I hate letting people down and leaving people out, but sometimes, you have to draw a line. It was hard to initially draw it, but really, I don’t think any feelings were hurt.
Where would you draw the line if you were paying for your own wedding?
Oh yeah – And if you didn’t notice- I went and made a snazzy button! I guess being sick hasn’t hindered all my creativity.