Waiting on marriage

First comes love, then comes marriage, then come [name] pushing the baby carriage!

If only that were true these days!

As I am mentioned a couple times, Kyle and I have been dating for a loooong time. Like, seven years, long. We’ve been together since we were 16. It’s an oddity these days to find couples who have been dating that long. I know of three other couples who started dating when they were 16/17 and two of them are married. (I even went to both weddings last year)

Back in the day, my mom was already married and pregnant (with yours truly) by the time she was my age. Kyle and I have been taking things slow. We’ve only been living together for just over a year and we’re slowly starting to save for a house.

Basically, what it comes down it is, people these days are taking their time to get educated and establish themselves in the world before settling down. Kyle and I would rather have good jobs and a house before getting married. Yeah, we’ll eventually get married. Truuust me.

I’m just tired of people asking me “When are you guys going to get married??” Really, I have no idea. One day, when we’re where we want to be in life, it’ll happen. We’re perfectly happy shacked up in sin (so to speak) and the past year of living together has been amazing. One of my friends said to me once that I should give up after 10 years if hadn’t proposed. Yeah, I’d love that ring on my finger, but I think that if you love someone enough it shouldn’t matter how long he takes to pop the question.

Anyway, that’s just my thoughts.  We’ll get married, one day. I don’t know when, but I know it will happen. Good things happen to those who wait, right?

5 thoughts on “Waiting on marriage

  1. You are doing just fine. Just an idea >>>> Perhaps the others want a ‘wedding’ to go?
    Life is for sharing, why bother with a piece of paper. I have a ‘special friend and we don’t even contemplate marriage >>> no commitment. Enjoy each others company, yet we have our own places to live.
    Regards Mary


  2. I know exactly how you feel. Adam and I were dating for about 5 1/2 years before getting engaged. People kept asking and asking and asking…so annoying. But it all worked out in the end when the time was right for us. Just hang in there, living in ‘sin’ is fun :)


  3. If I was following in my mom’s footsteps, I would be married with three kids by now. The oldest would be 8. (She had me when she was just barely 16) When I think about it that way, I freak out! I’m not ready for kids! But then again, a good portion of my friends are either engaged or married and some already have two kids. I’m only 24 years old, so this all seems way too young for me.
    As of next month, Stephen and I will have been together for 2 years. We’ve been living together for 6 months. And while yes, we have discussed marriage (yes, we do want to get married!), we’re not ready for it yet. We want to get better jobs, save up, get a house and all that jazz. We’ll get married when we’re ready.


  4. I agree with Mary’s response ~ people just like going to weddings! Nathan and I only dated 6 months before getting engaged and we were getting the marriage questions after about 3 weeks together. Ugh.


  5. I’m getting married, but I feel the way that you do in a different regard: having children. My fiance and I feel totally ready to make the commitment to each other and we’re so excited about being husband and wife. We already live together, but for us it is important to make it official both for ourselves and before we do those big-ticket things like buy a house. But we are sooo not ready for kids. We want to establish ourselves in our careers, travel, buy a house, and just enjoy being young and married before we even think of children. It’s something different for everyone, and it’s great that you know what your pace is and your priorities!

    And weddings are B.S. I have a love/hate relationship with planning mine. I’m excited about the ceremony, but people who think that your wedding day should be the single happiest day of your life have low expectations for all the days afterward!



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