Story of the Exes

While many people have found it hard to believe, I did date a few guys before Kyle and I started dating.

Lately, it’s been weird, but they’ve all kinda of made brief reappearances in my life. For the most part, it’s been stumbling across them on Facebook. They’ll send a friend request and I usually accept it just so I can creep their pages to see if they’ve moved onto bigger and better things.

One ex (actually, my very first boyfriend from Grade 7) I ran into on a drunken trek to Denny’s at 2:30 in the morning after a night of dancing and partying with friends. That was weird, needless to say, but whatever. That relationship lasted maybe 2 months and didn’t go anywhere past holding hands. Ah, to be young again.

One guy, whom dated on and off at least seven times (pathetic, I know) actually added me to Facebook last week. I was rather shocked by it but accepted the request. Apparently he’s moved to a bigger city down in the Lower Mainland (a total shocker because I thought he’d stay in the hometown forever) but he’s still more or less a loser in my eyes. Oh joy.

I ran into the father of another ex a couple summers ago and he mentioned that the boy had given up on becoming an electrician to move back home and work on his “art”. Apparently he’s into making sculptures? Weird. I gotta admit, I think I laughed a little out loud when I heard that.

Oh, and another one is still a whiny emo-type guy living at home. Sweet.

I sometimes wonder what the heck I was thinking when I dated those guys, but I guess something had to be appealing if I dated them. Sure, a first boyfriend is a first boyfriend. When all your friends are dating someone and you’re not, you just want to fit in. The on-and-off guy I dated because he said he’s liked me for “like ever”, but as it turns out, he’s told everyone he’s dated that he’s like them “forever.” Smooooth.

The non-electrician was one of my best guy friends at the time and I guess just hanging out all the time made each other wonder. And the still-at-home emo guy … that I really don’t know.

I started dating Kyle when I was in Grade 11 and that’s been it! He’s never told me a lie to get me to like him more, he’s never quit something because things got tough and he’s never stopped loving me : ) I suppose it just goes to show that sometimes you really do have to date a lot of losers before you find the right guy. I’m just glad I got it over with first thing.

Have you ever dated someone who has later made you think, “What was I thinking?” Do you think, as cheesy as it sounds, that there’s someone out there for everyone?

And amazingly, I don’t have any digital copies of any of these guys. I’d have to dig through photo albums and scan … too much effort for now! lol

Finding Friendship

You know, I always hear people talk about having life-long friends and wonder, how do they manage that?  Growing up, I had the same group of friends until about Grade 7, then we started falling apart.

One of my friends started hanging out with a less than savoury crowd, while the rest of us met new people when high school started. Come to think about it, I’m not close with anyone I was friends with in high school or elementary school anymore. I mean, I have them all on my Facebook, but if we were to sit down and hang out, it would probably be awkward in a hurry.

It’s interesting because Kyle is still good friends with everyone he hung out with throughout school and he’s made some amazing friends afterwards as well. Perhaps that’s just his personality; He’s straight-up with everyone he meets and doesn’t take any bull. That’s one thing with girls – we can be catty individuals (even when we try not to be) and I think that’s what pulls our friendships apart. I was best friends with a girl in high school but we had a huge fight and haven’t really said more than 10 words to each other since.

There’s only one person I still somewhat talk to with whom I was close throughout elementary school and part of Grade 8 and 9. We were close all throughout elementary school and she just recently got married last summer and I was quite surprised when I was invited to the wedding. It was beautiful and I was even more surprised when her aunt mentioned me in her toast.

Of course, today I’m not completely friendless. I have four amazing girl friends who I talk to regularily and I wouldn’t trade them for the world! Two of them I’ve met through work and two I’ve met through school. Maybe that’s where “life-long” will start for me.

Is there anyone who you have been friends with since diapers? Do you think guys hold friendships better than girls?