Comparing Kids

One of the first questions I find that I’m being asked now that Norah is here is, “How is she compared to Isla?” As it turns out, the girls are both pretty different so far, both physically and behaviourally.

For example, when Isla was a newborn she:

  • Had more hair than Norah
  • Spit up WAY more
  • Took a soother
  • Had brown eyes
  • Was a good napper during the day but …
  • Had a horrible nighttime routine

With Norah, things are slightly different:

  • She has less hair that Isla did, and it’s lighter
  • Barely burps after she eats and very seldom spits up
  • HATES a soother, or at least the kind I’m currently trying to offer her
  • Has blue eyes (which very well may change in time)
  • Doesn’t nap very easily during the day but …
  • Sleeps for 3-4 hours straight every night

Of course nowadays, Isla is a wild child with a crazy amount of energy and it looks like Norah may be a little more chill and relaxed than her big sister. I hope that when they’re both older, their personalities balance each other out. If Isla remains to be the wilder child and Norah is more low-key, that’s fine by me. Like every pregnancy, every kid is different.

Norah on the right, Isla on the left

Norah on the right, Isla on the left

And if you were to ask me who my favourite child is, I’ll never tell ;) (I’m kidding, I love them both equally and they both drive me crazy in their own unique ways.)

B.I.B.

Time Magazine, May 2012

This magazine cover sparked a lot of controversy over breastfeeding and where mom’s should “draw the line” when it comes to nursing your child … 

They (medical professionals, health organizations, people in general) say that “breast is best” (B.I.B.) when it comes to feeding your baby. As soon as possible, after your baby is born you’re encouraged to breastfeed your baby. Lactation consultants are brought in to make sure your baby is “latching on” correctly and getting the nutrients it needs.

It’s recommended that you breastfeed for a minimum of six months. After that, I’m guessing you can do what you want – Transition to formula, switch to milk, whatever.

I’ve noticed recently that there has been some discussion on how long you should breastfeed your child for. I’m no nutritionist, so I have no idea how long is “long enough,” but I wonder if there’s a certain age where you should draw the line. I’ve heard of 3-year-olds still being breastfed, which I find a little strange, but if that’s what the mother wants to do, then that’s fine.

Breastfeeding Isla until she’s old enough to tell me she’s hungry (and not just in the “crying because she’s hungry” way) isn’t something that I plan to do. To be honest, I don’t know when I’m going to ween her off of the boob, but I don’t think I’ll keep doing it once she’s a year old. At her doctor appointment the other day, the doctor asked if I was still nursing her and if I had given her any solid food yet. I told him I was and that I hadn’t given her any solids yet. (I’m afraid of the diapers, to be completely honest, and how it will affect her tummy.) Because she’s gaining weight wonderfully, he told me to just keep giving her breast milk, so I will. I digress …

Quite a few mom’s I know have breastfed for a year or longer. Like I said, I don’t know if I want to do it for more than a year. Yes, I’m aware of all the “goodness” that’s in breast milk, but I was only breastfed for about 3 months and I turned out just fine, as do babies who are given formula from Day 1. I personally don’t think I’m going to depriving my daughter of anything if I choose to ween her after a year. I’m sure other mom’s will be all judgey if I stop breastfeeding earlier than a year, but I never claimed to be some kind of Super Mom with magical powers to breast feed forever. I’d like to get a little bit of my freedom back and not have to rely on my boobs to feed Isla every 3-4 hours. Yeah, I could pump, but I do enjoy the bonding time we have while I’m nursing her. Plus – pumps are CRAZY expensive and I’m not willing to dish out the dough just yet.

I miss eating spicy food and strawberries. I miss having the occasional boozy drink and not having to worry about whether or not the alcohol has passed through my system before nursing Isla. But – I won’t stop nursing her just because I want a spicy burrito or Caesar at the pub. I know that “breast is best” and that Isla needs the goodness from breast milk, but I know I can’t – and won’t – breast feed her forever.

I apologize for the disorganization of this post, but it’s something that’s it’s been on my mind and I just needed to do a “brain dump.”

What are your thoughts on “prolonged” breast feeding? How long do you think is “long enough?”