WTW: One Year Later

Technically our 1-year anniversary was on Monday, but in keeping with tradition, I’m going to post these questions today. I can’t remember where I first seen them, but it was somewhere in blogland for sure!

1. How it all began: how you met, first date, first kiss, how long did you date? First picture together…..etc.
We first met when we were about 6 years old! Although we’re the same age, Kyle was a grade ahead of me (due to where our birthdays landed in the calendar year. If I had been born 8 days sooner we’d be in the same grade and who knows how things would’ve played out! I digress…). We were in the same Grade 1/2 split class and he had a huge crush on my that continued all throughout our school days until we were 16 when I told him we should hang out one night. (Or maybe he told me that? I don’t recall!)
Our first official “date” included silly online computer games, 5-cent candy from the corner store and driving around in his car. We weren’t officially boyfriend/girlfriend at the time, but when the night was over and I was home talking to him on MSN Messenger (because that’s how you rolled back in the day) I told him how I wished I had kissed him. Being a no BS kind of guy, he came back out and our first kiss was before we were even BF/GF. We officially became an item on November 18, 2002 and dated for almost 8 years before we got engaged on November 12, 2010!

Our first photo together – Just after Christmas 2002!

2. When you knew he was the one: self explanatory.. but how and when did you know?}
Our relationship had A LOT of ups and downs – but what do you expect when you’re together for 8 years? I can’t pinpoint an exact moment when I knew that he was The One,  but eventually I realized that he was going to be there for me and love me no matter what. He really keeps me grounded, and I like to think that I do the same for him!

3. Proposal: how it happened, how long were you engaged for? Was it a total surprise? Pictures of that… etc.
The proposal was a surprise and totally out of left-field! I was sitting at our dining table, eating a cupcake before I started work at my second job for the evening. Kyle had actually bought the cupcakes as a surprise to mask the REAL surprise, sneaky bugger! As I was eating the cupcake, I told him he was the best boyfriend ever, to which he responded, “Oh yeah? Close your eyes!” I did, expecting something silly like a movie I had wanted or something like that, but when he told me to open them he was down on one knee and asked, “How about I be the best husband ever? Will you marry me?” I believe I responded with, “Are you serious?” followed by a “Yes” and happy crying. I don’t have any pictures of the moment, but we were engaged for 7 months before getting married.

4. The ring: tell us about it! Did you pick it out? Did he? Pictures! Tell us about his ring too!
My ring is a diamond solitaire (Canadian!) diamond set in platinum. It’s gorgeous and simple and really suits me! I didn’t pick it out specifically, but Kyle had a good idea of what we both wanted for my engagement ring, and he did an awesome job picking it out all by himself. He did me VERY proud ;) His wedding band is a tungsten band – Simple with clean lines.

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5. Engagement/bridal pictures: let’s see em!
We never did engagement photos, due to our short engagement. We did put an announcement in the paper, and we did have an awesome photographer for our wedding day. You can view some of our wedding photos in this post.

6. The colours: show some of the flower and colors you used
Our colours were black, white and royal blue (or as Kyle calls it, “Ford Vista Blue,” lol). The flowers that I used were mainly white gerbera daisies with black centers (which was a HUGE deal because they also have a yellowish-white centered variety). I used them in the centerpieces for the tables as well as in the bridesmaids bouquets. My bouquet was white roses and white gerbera daisies.

7. The dress: was it what you always imagined? Did you have it made for you? White or ivory?
My dress was perfect, in my opinion ;) I’m sure I’ve mentioned this a thousand times before, but I never dreamed of what my wedding dress would like like when I was little. When I put it on in the bridal salon though, I just loved how it made me look and feel. It was perfect! That being said, I didn’t have it made for me, but I did have it shortened by a couple inches or so! The official colour of the dress is “diamond white,” so it’s not stark-white, but it’s not too creamy. Really, it was the perfect shade!

8. The little accessories: you know, veil? Shoes? Jewelry? What did your bridesmaids wear?
At first, I didn’t really want a veil, but my mom insisted on one! After trying one on when I had found my dress, it really helped pull everything together! My veil was simple with delicate beading along the trim – nothing too crazy! My shoes were pretty white flip flops with rhinestone beading that I still wear to this day. (Why not? They’re beautiful!) For jewelry, I only wore silvery glittery plugs for my ears (having them stretched left things a little limited!) and for the reception I took my veil off and wore a little rhinestone hair accessory.

My bridesmaids wore matching black dresses and I bought them personalized necklaces from Ritzy Misfit as gift to wear on the wedding day. They looked stunning! And seriously – they can wear their dresses to other functions too. I really wanted to think practical!

9. The reception: where was it at? Show us some pictures! What day did you get married?
Our reception was at a local hall at a beautiful local park, which made things extremely affordable! There was plenty of parking, a bar area and CLEAN washrooms! We were married on June 4, 2011 – probably the first and only beautiful day of June! It rained all month after that!

10. The cake/food: So tell me about what you had at your wedding!
Our cake was 3 tiers, with the bottom and top tiers being vanilla and the middle being chocolate. The icing was fondant. We had a roast beef buffet for dinner with all the trimmings. It was FANTASTIC as far as on-site buffets go.

11. Favourite part of the day and least favorite part of the day: can be anything.
I think my favourite part of the day was the end when Kyle and I were in the limo on our way to our “getaway” location. It felt amazing to finally really be alone together and think of the day.

My least favourite part? Probably when my FIL kept blurting out the answers to our trivia questions. He had seen the piece of paper with the Q&A’s a couple weeks beforehand and couldn’t keep his mouth shut, even though his table already got a question right to go eat!

12. Honeymoon: Where did you go? Was it good? ;)
Other than our wedding night getaway, we never had a honeymoon. Not to say that it wasn’t amazing or anything ;) But really, I don’t regret not having a honeymoon right after our wedding. Some people think we’ll regret it, but I don’t. We’ll have one eventually, just not anytime soon.

13. Thoughts on marriage: what is the easiest/hardest part? If you could change anything, what would it be?
For Kyle and I, I don’t think marriage made anything easier or harder. Since we’ve been together for so long, life just kind of resumed! The only hard part was getting used to referring to Kyle as my husband! It was quite the adjustment after 8 years of being my boyfriend!

14. First place that you lived together: pics if you have them!
We lived in our townhouse that we had bought before we got married, and in November last year, we bought a full-size house and moved into it! (Click the links for posts with photos!) We also rented a place before buying too.

15. Kids: do you have any yet? If not, when do you plan on it? How many do you want? Any tips on good/bad birth control?
Not yet, but we have one on the way at the end of this month! We definitely want two kids, maybe three depending on how things feel after two (Kyle really wants a son, lol). As for birth control – whatever works for you the best, really. I believe that there is no such thing as a “surprise” pregnancy unless you fall within that 0.1% zone for birth control (it’s 99.9% effective for a reason). The “pull-out” method is NOT birth control either!

16. Most recent picture of you and your significant other and what you love most about them :) and any other thoughts.

Not the most glamorous photo of us, but it’s the most recent! This is after working in the yard during a hot day!

I can’t believe that I’ve been married to this amazing man for a year already! It’s been one of the best years ever and it’s only going to get better!

 

Newly Wed/Newly Weds: Verb or Noun?

I pondered this question the other day and wondered, “Am I just newly wed or am I a newly wed?”

Confused? I don’t blame you.

Let me break it down for you: For example, Kyle and I just got married a couple months ago, therefore we’re newly wed (the verb). But – are we newly weds (the noun)?

I don’t really picture us as being the noun. The noun screams to me as couples who haven’t been together for an extended period of time before getting hitched and who still have issues and learn new things about each other after they get married.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking those who dated for two year and then got engaged. Old Kara – the Kara who still wasn’t engaged after being with the same guy for eight years and who would hate on people getting engaged – would hiss at those people in a jealous rage. New Kara – the Kara who’s finally married to her boyfriend of nearly nine years – now wonders and hopes that those people are really ready to take the plunge into newly wed-dome (the noun). Regardless of what our age would’ve been (18 years old, to be exact), at two years of dating we certainly were not ready to get married. We still didn’t know each other inside and out. We still didn’t know what buttons to push to make each other angry, happy, or swoon. It took us at least five or six years of being together to figure all of this out, and even now that we now each other really damn well, we still have the odd pissing match.

I think people are almost disappointed when they ask me “How’s newly wed life? Have things changed?” and I respond with, “It’s good and not really.” Nothing more, nothing less. The only thing that has changes is that I love him a little bit more than I used to, our finances have combined and my last name is different. We haven’t uncovered any skeletons from our past all of a sudden or fight about life-changing decisions. We argued about all of that way before getting married. Long story short: Marriage didn’t really change us.

So – with all this being said – I think Kyle and I are just the verb more than the noun. We hashed out all those nitty-gritty details way before we actually said “I do.”

Questions:
What do you think makes a “newly wed?”
If you’re married, how long did you date before you got married? Did that
length of time affect your marriage?
If you’re not married, do you think you’ll be the noun or the verb?

Guest Post: Holly

Hey guys! While I’m busy getting married and whatnot, I figured I’d line up a few guest posters for you!

Today Holly from Scattered Words is posting – Be sure to go say hello! She’s an amazing Mommy, wife, blogger and most importantly – Canadian! Thanks Holly for volunteering your blogging skills!

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Hi!  I’m Holly, and I usually blog at scattered-words.net – but I volunteered to write a guest post for Kara while she’s busy getting married and all that jazz.   She said I could write about anything I want, and while I thought about writing about something completely random – like my love for new pens, how my son is like a bagel, or how expensive a dog really is (especially if you have one that eats hardwood floors, baseboards, books, shoes, purses, socks, and couch cushions …) – but of course, I ultimately decided to write a wedding-related post!
I’m not exactly an “old married woman” – I’ve been married for 2 years and 10 months! – but I figured I’d offer a bit of marriage advice that I wish I had followed in those early days, weeks, and months:   Try your hardest to find joy in every situation. 
I’ll be honest:  I had a hard time adjusting to married life.  I didn’t expect everything to be perfect, by any means – but I definitely didn’t expect there to be quite so many bumps in the road those first few months.  I thought we had ironed everything out during our engagement (silly me!) –  but we fought a lot at first.  Mostly about silly things, like our schedules, chore delegation, when to get a dog, what kind of dog to get, where to put the bookshelf, what day to buy groceries – but also about bigger things, like money – whether we had enough, what to invest and where, how much to save – where to live, how to celebrate holidays, how to blend our families …
I was a bit of a poop for the first few months.  I knew when we got married that we would be living in Alberta but I wanted to be with my family in New Brunswick.  I hated our condo, I hated our city, I hated my job – but I love my husband.  It took me awhile to clue in, but I eventually realized that that takes precedence.
Yeah, yeah, I know.  Shoulda figured that one out before the wedding, eh?
 Anyway … married life is full of the unexpected (like your husband revealing to you while you’re on your honeymoon that he is the world’s biggest Star Wars nerd …) – but it’s also full of the awesome.  Knowing you’re with the person you were meant to be with.  Knowing you’re going to be with that person for the rest of your life.  Imagining what your babies will look like – and actually seeing your husband hold his son for the first time.    Experiencing love in a new, deeper way; watching it grow and change.   Complete and utter happiness.   Planning life together for the next 60 or so years …
Congratulations Kara & Kyle :D  Welcome to married life …
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Thanks Holly!