There are things in life that are for certain: The sun will rise in the east and set in the west, the grass is green, fall weather makes the leaves on the trees change their colours. While simple, these things are a few of things we can be sure of happening, life’s little guarantees.

There are also things that while they may seem simple enough, they are not. Like conceiving. Sure, when stripped down the math is simple: Have sex, get pregnant. In reality however, there are so many other factors; Ovulation. Egg count. Sperm count. Overall health. Conceiving is so much more complex than bumping uglies.

I’ve heard many people say over and over, “When we decide to get pregnant,” as if pregnancy is a given. However, what if it takes longer than anticipated to get to a place in your career where you feel comfortable or safe to take that time off to have a baby? And just because you decide to pull the goalie doesn’t mean than you’ll shoot and score on the first try. Unfortunately, the longer we wait to try and get pregnant, the riskier pregnancy can be.

And some women struggle for months, even years, before they get those two little pink lines on that intimidating white stick. Some even have to spend thousands of dollars on fertility treatments to have a child, and even then, it’s not guaranteed that there will be positive results. It’s unfathomable to think about not being able to have a child when that’s something you’ve dreamt about for as long as you can remember, and it’s heart-wrenching.

I really do wish bringing a new life into the world was as guaranteed as the sun rising and setting and that we women were all “Fertile Myrtle’s,” but sadly it is not, and I hope those waiting for the “right moment” in their lives to start trying at least acknowledge that.We cannot just decide to have a baby, but we can decide to give it a go. The rest is up to the powers that be, fate, or faith, whichever your give your heart and soul to. Fingers crossed, if you will.