If you love something, set it free …
I’m not saying I’m quitting, but I’m giving up on trying to stay in contact with someone who is/was one of my closest, best friends.
I haven’t seen her since May. We’ve talked about meeting for coffee. I told her whenever worked for her worked for me. She was suppose to text and let me know. I haven’t heard anything since. She broke up with her boyfriend, quit Facebook, and still hasn’t bothered to tell me what’s up.
Sure, I could text her first, but why bother when in the past they’ve led to nothing? I’m tired of making an effort and getting nothing in return. I’m guessing she knows I’ve moved since I ran into her brother in-law and we discovered that we live in the same townhouse complex. I could invite her over, but I don’t really want to.
I’m just tired on hanging onto a friendship that requires delicate work, and normally I’m not that kind of person, but I just can’t keep worrying about whether or not she’s going to get a hold of me.
The ball is in her court. When/if she wants to see me, she can call me. I hate that I’ve come to this, but I have more important things to worry about.
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Ugh. I hate when that happens! My husband’s best friend is like that … they were super close, she was one of the first people we told when we were pregnant and she acted like she was so excited for us – but we haven’t heard from her (or her husband) since. And that was, oh, September 2009-ish? They don’t answer their phones, they’re not on facebook, and even though they live really close to us, we don’t want to just drop in on them. So we’ve pretty much just given up. Blah.
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Yes I was in a similar position as you and gave up on someone.Its sad but you always have the memories.
Kara just enjoy your new home. I wish you every happiness as you sttle down to your new way of life.
Mary
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It sucks.
I’ve given up on trying to arrange meetups with my school gfs. I wait till they get their shit together and organise for all of us to be in one place. I’ve known one of them for nearly 10 years and sometimes we meet up, just the two of us….but as for group things, they all have really busy lives and are NOTORIOUS for cancelling plans at the last minute. It’s so frustrating.
And two of them are like that…never reply to texts etc. At some point you just gotta reassess how much you’re putting in vs how much you get out. I think with these girls, I’ll always be putting in slightly more, but that’s ok.
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