A couple days before my birthday last week, I nearly cancelled my plans. I realized that I have no friends, or at least none in town. All my friends seem to like to move or relocate a couple years or so into the friendship.
– B, one of my closest and dearest friends moved all the way up to Fort. St. John to be with her boyfriend. I miss her terribly because she’s the only girl I can joke and jest with and she won’t take offence and be bitchy about it.
– Melissa recently just moved to Vancouver to chase her dream of becoming an amazing reporter. (Or something like that! Sorry if I got that wrong Mel!) We shared a lot of good times while we were in J-School and I’m so glad that we became friends, even though our first meeting was slightly awkward.
– C will soon be moving to Vancouver to pursue her career in acting/directing. Despite all the personal issues with her dating the Roommate (which I’ve gotten over) I’m really going to miss her! She is an amazing friend and is so kind to her friends and family.
Okay, so maybe three people moving shouldn’t be such a big deal, but when you’re that close with someone, it’s really hard. My life will continue on, even though my friends move away. You can’t make people stay anywhere, and that’s one of those things that’s hard to accept.
I remember once upon a time Kyle had applied for a job in Langley (About 3 hours away) and he went down for an interview/welding test. He did well and was offered the job and I cried a mix of happy and sad tears. I was happy that he got the job but was so terrified of being apart from him. After hearing how upset I was, he declined the job offer.
Part of me was relieved, the other part was mad because my personal issues shouldn’t have gotten in the way of Kyle pursuing his dreams.
I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I shouldn’t get so overwhelmed when my friends decide to pursue their dreams. The majority of the time, you have to relocate to find what you’re looking for. I’ve been lucky enough to find it without moving.
I need to remember that my friends are still my friends, no matter how many kilometres separate us. The distance may even bring us closer since we would cherish the moments we do get to visit.
So, while I may not have many friends in town, at least I have some amazing ones far away.
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I know how you feel, though I was the one who moved away. All of my close friends are back east. I’ve made a few friends since moving to Alberta but nothing like the friendships I had back home. On my birthday I’d rather spend an hour or two on the phone with one of my close friends that I can have a real conversation with than doing something to celebrate with the people here. The hardest thing is staying in touch with friends so far away!