If I’ve learned anything from planning my own wedding, it’s that you start to grow weary of many things.

I’m starting to get tired of planning and just want the Big Day to get here, like, now. Then people will stop asking me, “So, how’s the planning coming along?”, “Are you getting excited?”, “Do you have cold feet yet?”, etc., etc., etc. To which I always respond, “Pretty good,” “I am,” and “No.”

You grow weary of the details: Where to have the rehearsal dinner, where to have gift opening, what music to choose, what to wear to different pre and post-wedding functions.

As excited as I am to get married to the man I love, I’m tired of planning everything. Not that I don’t regret planning my own wedding. My secret (or not so secret) control freak nature wouldn’t let me have someone else do everything for me. I’ve been less of a bridezilla by not asking for help.

“I don’t know” has become a common answer to come out of my mouth. I don’t know where to have the rehearsal dinner. I don’t know where to open gifts. I don’t know what to wear for the rehearsal. I just don’t know.

I’m tired about worrying about the guest list. I’m worried about conflicting parties and relatives that don’t get along.

I do know that I want this wedding more than anything. I just wish I wasn’t growing so weary of planning it all. I need some reassurance that it’s going to be just fine.

What are/were your wedding woes?

Also – this post appears to be brought to you by the letter W. Alliteration for the win! Sorry for being such a Debbie Downer.

One of the most ridiculous things about wedding planning is the excitement/nervousness that comes with getting an RSVP in the mail. All sorts of things rush through your head: Who’s it from? Did they accept? Are they both coming? Oh hell, they better not say “No” and then show up anyway … (Okay, maybe that’s just me)

My RSVP due date is less than a week away and I’m still waiting for and handful and a bit of RSVP’s. It frustrating, especially when people who are obviously coming (ie. have told us they’re coming) have not sent their cards in. GAH! We sent them out at the end of January, I think two months is lots of time, but maybe not? Anyway, moving on.

The biggest issue I’ve noticed on many-a-wedding website is how to let the invite recipients know who’s invited and who’s not. In our case, it’s an “Adults only” reception. On many a wedding website, it’s stated that only the individuals addressed on the invitation are the ones invited, and it’s presumed that if a single individual is invited they may bring a guest. I guess it’s not commonsense to some. I’ve got a couple RSVP’s back with children included (Insert my panic here in how to make sure kids don’t actually show up to the reception).

Thankfully, most people have been pretty understanding of the “No Kids” reception concept. Luckily, my mom has a big house and I have a cousin old enough to babysit the young-uns during the reception.

And most of all, I’ll be glad to get the final headcount done so I’ll be able to work on everything else that needs to be done, including a seating chart (mandatory due to conflicting family members) and those pesky favours that I was stressing out over a while back (I’m SO glad all the stuff on that list is crossed off!)

How did/will you decide who comes and who doesn’t?

And a very Happy Birthday to my Mommy, who has helped made planning this wedding so. much. easier. Love her! <3

What’s a wedding without guests, right? And if you don’t have guests, well, you may as well elope.

Figuring out our guest list had Kyle and I seriously consider eloping. It was a PAIN. Since we are absorbing the majority of the cost to have our wedding, keeping a tight grasp on the guest list was important, but at the same time, deciding who we wanted to come was a HUGE battle.

It was all a matter of where to draw the line. Stop after immediate family and their spouses? Invite cousins? What about distant relatives such as great aunts and uncles? The mailman? Okay, you get my point.

We really wanted to keep our guest list under 100 people and to do that we HAD to cut people out. Not everyone was so keen on the cuts we made, but it was all about cost, sadly.

The harding thing was going to be telling my family that they couldn’t bring their kids. I have a lot of younger cousins on my mom’s side of the family, and not all young kids are gung-ho when it comes to sitting through a wedding reception and behaving. Plus, I still have to pay the $20/head for their meals, and they would probably only eat 1/3 of what an adult would eat. Not so cool on my bank account. Our solution? Adult-only reception. Brilliant! One of my cousins is old enough to babysit, so after the ceremony my mom is turning her house into a child care center and all the kiddos will hang out there. Woo!

Another hard decision was inviting the “hard to deal with” relatives. There’s a lot of conflict between family members on either side of Kyle and I’s family, so deciding who to invite and who not to invite was again, hard. In the end, we decided to invite everyone who deserved an invitation. After all, it was OUR wedding, and if people can’t get along for one day then they don’t have to come. It should be interesting to see how this all plays out, but the “rules” have been made clear to all conflicting parties.

Figuring out who to invite was by far the most difficult part of the wedding planning process. I hate letting people down and leaving people out, but sometimes, you have to draw a line. It was hard to initially draw it, but really, I don’t think any feelings were hurt.

Where would you draw the line if you were paying for your own wedding?

Oh yeah – And if you didn’t notice- I went and made a snazzy button! I guess being sick hasn’t hindered all my creativity.