Author Archives: Kara

Dating in the Digital Age

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I think that if for whatever reason, if Kyle and I were to break up and I had to start dating again, I’d have no idea how to start. For one, I’d have to be less of a bitch to guys in bars.

And then, and probably the biggest thing is that, there was no such thing as text messaging when we started dating. Or Facebook. We had MSN Messenger and land-line telephones. We would talk on MSN for an hour or so maaaaybe and then talk on the phone for hours some nights. Other than talking in person, talking on the phone is probably the next best thing for me. You can hear a person’s emotions and express yourself better and more clearly.

Today, everything is about Facebook and text messaging it seems. I can’t remember where I read it, (but I swear it was from a reliable source) but they say that couples who only communicate via text or online when they’re not together are not as emotionally connected.

Really, that doesn’t surprise me. Emotions can be hard to read when it’s just black and white text on a screen. For example, if I tell you, “I hate you, stupid blog readers! Why do you bother with this shit??” you don’t know if I’m serious or joking. (Of course, I’m joking! LAAV YOU LOOONG TIME!!)

The Roommate and C never talk on the phone. They’re main form of communication is text messaging and I sometimes wonder how in touch they actually are. I asked them one day if they’ve actually talked on the phone, and they hadn’t. Then I ask how they have serious conversations, and they say in person, but I don’t know if they got what I meant. They were probably thinking, “Liberal or Conservative”, while I was thinking, “Where is our relationship going?”

Maybe I’m just being weird, but if I really liked someone, I’d like talking on the phone with them. Even now, Kyle and I both text each other, but if we really want to have a conversation, we talk on the phone, even if it’s just for 5 minutes. You can communicate more, and better, in a shorter period of time.

I don’t think I’d make it in the dating world today. Sure, Facebook and texting is good in the beginning, but when I want to have a serious conversation, I want the real deal.

Ten on Tuesday

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1. Where did you go to college?

I went to Thompson Rivers University here in Kamloops.

2. What did you study?

Originally, I had started out in the Business degree program, but I sucked at all thing that involved numbers, so I switched to the Journalism program half-way through first year. Now I have a shiny Journalism degree!

3. Was college really all that it was cracked up to be?

I wasn’t really sure what to expect. It’s definitely all Frat-houses and Sororities like it is in the States (or at least in the movies). It was … okay?

4. How far were you from home?

I was only an hour away from my hometown, but since my dad moved to Kamloops around the same time I started school, I just moved in with him. Win!

5. Did you have the same roommate all four years?

Haha, if my Dad and brother count, then yes!

6. Where did you order food from at 2am?

No where, because are no 24hr food places here, other than McDonald’s drive-thru.

7. Did you date in college or were you tied down?

I did, but Kyle and I were dating before I started school.

8. Funniest drunk college moment?

Ripping the pants off of a guy. It was at a house party full of welders and one guy was wearing fashionable pre-ripped jeans and it just wasn’t acceptable. The funny thing? The instructor started it all. I feel a little bad, but not really.

9. Did you make it to class on time?

Almost always. There was one semester when I had two classes back-to-back and they were at opposite ends of campus. And the instructor in the first class liked to talk – a lot. Now picture me frantically running across campus to make it in time for my next class. Ugh.

10. What was your favourite class in college?

It was a black & white photography class that I took as an elective. You had to use a REAL camera and develop your own film and everything. The dark room was an amazing place to work, so peaceful! I would just turn on my iPod and work.

I also really like my Visual Culture course (also an elective!)

Happy Tuesday!