I pondered this question the other day and wondered, “Am I just newly wed or am I a newly wed?”
Confused? I don’t blame you.
Let me break it down for you: For example, Kyle and I just got married a couple months ago, therefore we’re newly wed (the verb). But – are we newly weds (the noun)?
I don’t really picture us as being the noun. The noun screams to me as couples who haven’t been together for an extended period of time before getting hitched and who still have issues and learn new things about each other after they get married.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking those who dated for two year and then got engaged. Old Kara – the Kara who still wasn’t engaged after being with the same guy for eight years and who would hate on people getting engaged – would hiss at those people in a jealous rage. New Kara – the Kara who’s finally married to her boyfriend of nearly nine years – now wonders and hopes that those people are really ready to take the plunge into newly wed-dome (the noun). Regardless of what our age would’ve been (18 years old, to be exact), at two years of dating we certainly were not ready to get married. We still didn’t know each other inside and out. We still didn’t know what buttons to push to make each other angry, happy, or swoon. It took us at least five or six years of being together to figure all of this out, and even now that we now each other really damn well, we still have the odd pissing match.
I think people are almost disappointed when they ask me “How’s newly wed life? Have things changed?” and I respond with, “It’s good and not really.” Nothing more, nothing less. The only thing that has changes is that I love him a little bit more than I used to, our finances have combined and my last name is different. We haven’t uncovered any skeletons from our past all of a sudden or fight about life-changing decisions. We argued about all of that way before getting married. Long story short: Marriage didn’t really change us.
So – with all this being said – I think Kyle and I are just the verb more than the noun. We hashed out all those nitty-gritty details way before we actually said “I do.”
What do you think makes a “newly wed?”
If you’re married, how long did you date before you got married? Did that length of time affect your marriage?
If you’re not married, do you think you’ll be the noun or the verb?